“You’ve grown if you are at the stage of your life where you don’t care about who talks about you behind your back”.
Have you ever met one of those people who are serial complainers who moan about everything?
Life is always happening to them, but they fail to see that life is happening because of them.
My Experience (one of many)
I once knew someone who obsessively talked about other people and their worldly possessions; it suddenly occurred to me that if they could talk about others in this way, they would talk about me.
Initially, I dismissed the notion; I'd known this individual a long time and convinced myself of their loyalty to me.
“Better to have an enemy who slaps you in the face than a friend who stabs you in the back”. Unknown
Sometimes, they would want to show me someone's Facebook profile and talk about their clothes, the cars they drove, and their worth. I recall thinking, "Have they always been like this, or have I just noticed it?"
My gut instincts were right, and I later discovered the individual didn't have my best interests at heart either. I felt deeply betrayed when the friendship came to an abrupt end.
At that time in my life, I was working through a great deal of emotional trauma, including memory loss, debilitating health problems, grief, and crippling anxiety. This betrayal felt like another piece of icing on the cake.
I can accept that I was probably not the best person to be around at that time in my life, and the only way for me was to elevate up. A negative person can be a person who is suffering and not toxic, it is important not to confuse the two.
People Leave As You Elevate
Then, a healer and friend explained in depth how people fall away from our lives when they are no longer aligned with our our energetic frequency.
Later, I read a quote that said, "God removes people from your life because he heard conversations you didn't hear”.
As the years have ticked on, I see that as we ascend our levels of consciousness, those still stuck on the lower levels naturally do fall away. Not realising back then, but now I know this to be true. I have observed it happen several times, both in my own life and the lives of others.
Avoid And Assert
We can all probably think of someone we’ve known who always complains, and talks behind backs. These individuals are like dark clouds wherever they go.
They can be the people who quit and complain when things get tough, yet want a slice of the pie without putting in the team effort to create it. They never go above and beyond what they are asked to do, then wonder why they never get promoted.
Toxic people are easy to recognise and usually show their hands quite quickly. It is best to avoid them, asserting your boundaries early so they learn you do not engage in their drama and gossip.
“It is hard to deal with someone who smiles and pretends to like you to your face and sticks that eight-inch blade in your back when you turn around”. Unknown
Initially, they reel you in by taking an interest in your life and are good at mimicking, so you connect quickly. You can rapidly become like best friends as you appear to have so much in common, but underneath, they are storing your information to use against you at a later date.
“People talking about you behind your back actually belong behind you”.
For good reason, we simply say, “Rise above it”.
Higher-minded people do just that.
Written by Lisa Precious- Copyright Reserved
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