Ever noticed how you chase that sense of feeling complete? Let's discuss why the void you think you're feeling might just be a case of needing a little spiritual support.
This week's newsletter discusses the common misconception that we need external things to feel happy and complete, it suggests that any sense of lack is a psychological attachment rather than a real void. It's particularly relevant to coaching and the personal development arena.
The Illusion of Incompleteness
We only feel "incomplete" when we attach our sense of wholeness to external things. When we believe we have lost an item, a relationship, a job, a pet, even our youth, we perceive that we are lacking. It is only when we no longer attach ourselves to external things or outcomes, we recognise nothing can ever be missing in us.
The Abundance Paradox
By perceiving something is lacking or missing we try to find ways to fill the perceived void to feel whole and complete again. Yet, this perception of lack operates in a way that is the complete opposite to a person who is appreciative and grateful.
"I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation..." - Philippians 4:12
Coaching Through the Void
If you coach or help people, you likely support them to achieve their goals by helping to transport them from where they are now to where they want to be somewhere in the future. You act like a support vessel moving them from what they perceive is missing from their life to where they want to be.
The Christian thinker Augustine defined evil not as a thing in and of itself, but as a parasite of good. Something that is lacking is not a thing in itself.
We can perceive voids in ourselves, yet they are not real- to explain, by extracting the external world, you are still you. It's only when we allow ourselves to give our power away by attaching ourselves to external sources, we can feel disempowered and lacking. If we don't take the important steps to empower ourselves with goodness, something else moves in to fill the perceived lack, such as a person, an authority, food, drugs or alcohol.
When we experience a loss or create a space in our lives, we often feel an almost instinctive urge to have to fill it again with something.
We always have a choice in how or whether we even need to fill these perceived spaces. Just because nature abhors a vacuum doesn't mean we must fill all of our perceived external voids.
Colossians 2:9-10 "For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form, and in Christ you have been brought to fullness."
Whenever you decide to eliminate something or someone from your life due to misalignment, you are never incomplete; you are always a whole individual.
"A self-empowered individual has no holes, is whole and thus holy" Lisa Precious
The Leaky Bucket Theory
If you had a bucket with a hole in the bottom, it would leak and no longer be able to work to fulfil its full capacity. It would still be a bucket, unable to fully function unless the leak hole was sealed. Giving away your power to external attachments and sources works much in the same way. You may never feel full, satisfied, whole, or complete.
Filling Your Cup Without Spilling Your Spirit
On True Fulfilment: John 4:13-14 "Jesus answered, 'Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst.'" John 4:13-14
Anything we perceive to be lacking is no-thing. To be spiritually full is not to be lacking, but to be in the mind of appreciation, gratitude and abundance, and to want everything you have.
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